Humare ek dost Rahul aaj-kal kuch preshan chal rahe hai aur jaisa ki sab jante hi hai ki, sirf ek saccha dost hi preshani ke time ek dost ki help karta hai isliye Rahul ne humse help mangi hai aur apna dost dharam nibhate huye hum bhi unki help jarur karenge. Baat ye hai ki, Vo bechare ek ladki se bahut pyar karte hai aur use apni life partner banana chahte hai par ladki hai ki dosti ke platform se aage badhne ko taiyar hi nhi ho rhi hai. Ab humare dost ko samajh nhi aa rha hai ki vo kya kare. To chaliye doston Rahul ke sawal ko detail me padhte hai aur fir kosish karte hai unko kuch kaam ki baat batane ki… 🙂

Rahul ka sawal..

Hi mam, dis is Rahul… mujhe ek ladki se love ho gya hai or uske sath meri dosti ko ek saal ho gya hai. Aur mai usse bina baat kiye reh nhi pata hu. Mai jab baat nhi karta hu to Vo mujhe khud bol deti hai – Kya baat hai aaj kisiko baat nhi karna hai kya..?

Mai usse Saadi karna chahata hu but vo Shaadi ke liye Haa nhi bol rhi hai.. Vo sirf mujhe as a friend rakhti hai.. Btaiye Mai kiya karu?… Main usko kabhi call ni karta hu, jab uski call aati hai sirf tab hi baat hoti hai uski aur meri. Jab bhi vo kahi ghumne jaati hai to mujhe apni pics jarur deti hai. Uske bahut safe boys me friend hai but bolti hai ki koi bhi mera Bf ni hai. am single. Plz help me. Mujhe uske bina kissi kaam me mann ni lgta hai, Main use kisi bhi haal me paana chahta hu.

Jis Ladki Se Pyar Karta Hu Vo Dost Manti Hai, Main Kya Karu

Shivshi ka jawab..

Hello dear Rahul… sabse pahle to ye clear kar lena bahut jaruri hai ki Bhabhi bhi tumse pyar karti hai ya fir ye pyar ki Mashal sirf apni tarah se hi jal rahi hai. Aur isse bhi important ye ki pahle theek se soch aur samajh lo ki kya uske saath tumhara acha future possible hai ya nhi, kya agar vo tumhe mil jaati hai to tum khush reh paoge.

Kahi aisa na ho ki – Hzaar kosishon ke baad ladki ko paa liya, apni bana liya aur baad me ghar waalon ka koi issue ho jaaye! Ya fir tumhe khud hi uska nature pasand na aaye, because jaisa ki tumne bataya uski aur bhi kyi boys se dosti hai to aise me agar vo tumhari ho bhi gyi aur apne doston se baat karti rhi to tumhe problem to nhi hogi. Is tarah ki basic baatein youth normally nahi sochti hai aur fir baad me inhi reasons ki vajah se zindgi narak ban jaati hai. Isliye aage badhne se pahle acchi tarah se vichar kar lena behad jaruri hai.

Agar ab bhi tumhe theek lagta hai aur ab bhi tum use apne Aangan ki Tulsi banana chahte ho to chalo mission par kaam chalu karte hai.

Ab usse jab baat ho to baat baat me use apne dil ki baat batane ki kosish karo. Use batao ki tum use pasand karte ho, use apni banana chahte ho, usse bahut pyar karte ho aur uske bina tumhara kisi kaam me mann nahi lagta. Aur fir dekho ki vo kya response deti hai.

Agar to vo tumhari baaton ko samajh rhi hai aur jo tum keh rahe ho uske baare me deep me baad kar rhi hai tab to theek hai lekin yadi vo tumhari baaton ki taraf dhyan hi nhi de rhi aur un sab baaton ko hansi me uda rahi hai to baat aisi hai ki use tumse pyar nhi hai. Yaa fir… shayad hai but use bhi pata nhi hai.

Ab ye pata lagane ke liye ki uski life me aapki kya jagah aur kitni importance hai tumhe thoda muskil kaam karna hoga, aur vo muskil kaam ye hai ki – Kuch dino ke liye usse har tarah ka contact khatam kar do… No msg, no call, nothing, uski call aaye to utho bhi mat...

Agar to uske upar tumhari is absense ka koi khas fark nhi pada aur vo apni life me jaisi thi vaise hi khush hai to ye baat yhi saaf ho jaati hai vo tumhe sirf ek dost manti hai aur tumhare hone ya na hone se use koi bhut jyada farak nhi padta.

Aise me mere friend, Main tumhe yhi salah dungi ki Life me sabse keemti cheez hai – Time. Aur is time ko ladki ke piche bewakoofi me bevajah barbad mat karo. (must read : Kya Aap Ladki Ke Piche Apni Zindgi Barbad Kar Rahe Hai) Apni life me aage badho aur apne mann ko control karo. Sach ko jitna jaldi pehchan liya jaaye aur use maan liya jaaye utna hi acha hota hai. Feelings ka hona theek hai par akalmandi se kaam lena jyada jaruri hai.

But agar vo tumhari absense se preshan hone lagti hai, tumhe baar-baar msg aur call karti hai to iska matlab hai ki uske dil me kam se kam tumhare liye ek khaas jagah jarur hai. Use call aur msg karne do, kisi bhi msg aur call ka jawab mat do aur fiir kuch dino baad achanak uska phone uthao. Vo puchegi ki tum itne din se kahan ayab the, mera phone phone bhi nhi utha rahe the aur kisi msg ka reply bhi nhi kar rhe the. Aisa kyu kar rhe the to use btao ki –

Yaar baat ye hai ki Main tujhse bhut pyar karta hu, but tujhe mujh me interest nhi hai so Main life me aage badhna chahta hu aur aise life barbad nhi karna chahta. Mujhe life me kuch banna hai, ek bada insan, ek safal beta banna hai isliye main ab in sab cheezon se dur hu. Jab humari is dosti ka koi future hi nhi to jarurat se jyada najdiki badha ke bhi nuksan hi hoga. Tujhe ho na ho kal ko mujhe bhut dukh hoga dur hone ka, so acha yhi hai ki abhi sambhal jaya jaaye.

Iske baad vo ladki sochne ke liye majbur ho jayegi aur uske dil me agar tumhare liye thodi si bhi feelings hongi to vo jarur tumhari taraf attract hogi aur ho sakta hai tumhari dilruba tumhe mil jaaye.

So Friends, mujhe puri umeed hai ki – Maine jo bhi Rahul ko bataya aap usse sehmat honge. Yadi aapko meri koi baat galat lagi ho ya aap Rahul ko kuch aur batana chahe to please niche diye huye Comment box me comment karke jarur bataye.

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Hello Ji :) Main hu Shivshi. Student hu but Love matters ko achi tarah samajhti hu. So ye site bnayi hai aapki help ke liye. Kuch bhi problem ho ya kuch puchna ho, bolo bina tension.. ♥ Reason for late reply.

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  1. main kisi se bhotpyaar krta huu or woh mEri cousin h or 1 baar maine kaha tha i love you but she didn’t tell anything i love her so much yR or abhi uska rishta aya hain or mera usyy baat krne main darr lgta h coz koi uske ghr walo ko pta nh lag jaye plz help me

  2. Hello mam.
    Mqi ghar ke pass hi ldki ka ghar hai. Hmm log ek doosre ko kaafi jante hai . Main usse pasand krta hu lekin bol nhi pa rha hu. Mujhe nhi pta kiu but main kahi b village main usse milu to vo smile jroor krti hai mere saath mere frnds b ho tb b vo smile jroor krti hai .
    Pls tell me ki mujhe kya krna chahiye

    1. woh aapko pasand karti hai ya nahi karti hai isse aapko koi farak nahi padhna chahiyee hai aap usse sabse pehle as friend baat kare uske baad hi kuch aur baat kare.

  3. Mai kiss ladki ka sath bachpan sa hi sath padhta hu wo Mara Ghar ka bagal ma rhti hAi Mai uska Ghar par uska sath tusion bhi padh Chuka hu ma or Mai ussa bhut pyar karta hu Mai uska Bina nhi rah sakta roj uska liya rota hu par musha pahla fraind manti thi par Mai USA ak mahina say prasan kar rha hu ki Mai tumsa pyar karta hu wo musha ab Mari bahan sa kahti hAi ki Mai USA Bhai manti hu ab Mai kya kru

    1. Wo musha accha ladka or dost bhi manti hAi par musha bat nhi karti or kahti Mai fraind ka alawa or khucc nhi kar sakti wo Mara 7sal sath padhi hAi pleas musha btay ki USA pana ka liya kya karna pdaga

      1. aap hmaesha uske ass pass ghumte rahe aur har kaam kare jab bhi usse kisi help ki need ho aap uske kaam ane chahhiye hai.

    2. aap kisi ke sath zabardasti nahi kar sakte hai. itna pagal pan bhi acha nahi hota hai jab usko aapse pyar nahi hai toh aap khud itne samjhdar hona chahiye hai ki no ka matlab no hota hai.

  4. Hello mam kessi ho ap? Mam ma or meri gf class fellow hh or neighbors b hain.Meri gf k ghr ka mahool bht open hh magar mere ghr ka mahool wohi purani khalat ka hh😪😪.Islye wo mije akser combine study k liye bulati th or ham us k kamree m parhte th or kabi muqa milta th to thora bht romance b karty th . Liken Taqreeban 1month ss na us ne mije apne ghr bulaya hh na class ma sahi ss baat karri hh 😪😪.Amooman jb ham milty th hi helo k saat shake hand b karty th ab wo b naii hora.Meri madad ab ap hi karsakti hh ho or apne experience ss mera relationship bacha sakti hoo.Jo or jesa relationship hamara th m na apko blkl such such batadiya hh plzzz agar possible hoo to help karen 😔😔

    1. Mije samaj naii aara k wo ab muj ss sahi ss baat q nai karri hh agar thori si ap guide karden k m apna relationship k se wapis phly jesa karu to I shakl be verry thank ful to u for this act of kindness

      1. pehle toh aap usse baat kare phir usse puche ki woh aisa kyu karte hai aur uske baat solution nikal lein

    2. pehle toh aap usse puche ki uski problem hai kya badmein uss problem ko dono mil ker solv kare aap usko bolein ki aise baat band karn e se kuch nahi hoga.

  5. Nmst mdm
    Meri ek frnd thi hun ek sath me job krte the 1 sath me the hum paheli bar mile tb ekdurse ko no diye mera whatsapp bandh tb use khi msgs kiye .mene jb start kiye to uske msgs padhe.bd normal chatting hota tha mujhe pta nhi tha wo mere bare me kya sochti hai.ek din hum sabhi sathe ghumne gye wo mere samne ki seat me bethi thi.hwa ki bjse uska duptta mere muh pr ata tha .tb mje ajbi fleenig hue mene kush dhyn nhi dia .mene uski photo khichi jb mene uski whatsapp me bheji to mj mna kiya aur wo boli xender dena likn hmra wha molbie use krne ki mny thi. Wo mj pr gussa hui aur boli meri photo sb dedo
    Hm mzk k mud me the.mne agr sir bole to wo boli kisi dusre k moblie me meri photo q rakhne du mne kha koi bt nhi mobile ap hath me to delete kado.wo boli me q karu ap hi kro.mj gussa aya mne use k same nhi dekha.wo mere same dekhti thi.use pta chalgya tha mere dil tuta hai.fir usne unnumberse mj msg kia mne kaha ap kon ho Fiza naam byta .wo mere bare sb jnti thi. Mne inqury ki kon fiza hai.sb bole mj pta nhi hai. Use ek ldki ki open photo bheji mene download nhi ki delete kr di.jb fiza boli tumra dil kisi ldki ne dukhya haina.tb mera sq ykin me bdl gya.wo mj sex kabe me msg krti rheti thi mj pta nhi chalta tha wo aisa q meri sath krti hai.bd me jo mere staff me the use bhi.mere staff me se koi hai.qki meri hr bt fiza ko pta hoti thi.Mona q mj se dur bhagti thi. MONAmeri frnd ka naam hai. Mona meri sath kya krti hai.wo fiza ko kaise pta chalta tha.mj lgta tha dono ek hi hai.
    Fiza ne mj msg kiya acha hua Mona tuj se dur bhagti hai. Mera sq sahi mj lga.mne kha Mona nhi to tum to hona.ye msg mne kiya to fiza ko bura nhi lga.jb mne fiza ko msg kiya Mona nhi to Aur shi To Fiza ko gussa aya aur usne msg kiya ja tmh koi nhi melegi. Mj block krdia.fir block unblock krti reti thi.mj smj me nhi ata tha wo aisa q krti hai mere.sath me call bhi kiye the to wo boli mera ne utha liya hot mne kha koi bt ap bhaise bt krte.
    Mona lkr mj kuch smj me nhi ata tha.wo q bar bar mj pr gussa krti hai. Meri koi g.f. hai k nhi uska naam bolo. Mne use frnd mna tha pr uske svl ajib the.hum chat karte the. Mj bolti me apne b.f ko milne gyi hun.11:00pm msg kr k bolti hai.me abhi apne b.f. k sath thi mne acha hai.ap parents man gye ap sadi k liye. Kbhi bolti he me singl hun.lekin uska b.f tha. Mne use dosta mna tha.mne use kha bhi kbi help jrurt ho to bolna. Mne kisi ldki k sath bolu to use gussa ata tha.mne uske liye gift khrdi thi use di to use nhi li. Mere staff ek or ldki thi use psnd aayi to mne use dedi. Use di tbhi wo mj pr gussa hue tmhri gift tm kisi ko bhi do.me tm dosti nhi hu. Mj tm pr bhorasa nhi. Mj smj me nhi aaya wo q gussa hui. Me or ek ldki kuch kam k liye upr k room khde the. Jb hm dono niche utre to wo dekhti or dusre din boli.agr hm dono ekle honge to log kya sochenge room ka door windo sb khule the or gate k pas hi khde the. Mne kha use me kya sochenge. Me or hum bhi sath me ekle the kya sochege . Me kha ap kya soch thi ho?Mona hsne ldi or srma gyi. Mj lga wo mj pr sq krti thi. Use wechet me bhi dusra naam se mj chat kiya or mj ek hi swl kiya tumhri g.f ka naam bolo .mj nhi pta tha ki wo aisa q krti hai. Wo mere bare me q jna chahti hai.1 year k bd wqt aisa ki mj wha se job chhodna pda .mj Mona ki yaad bhut aati thi or aj bhi ati hai. MOna ko mne kbhi kha pr wo smne bolti me apse pyar nhi krti hun .koi bt nhi mj to hena mne mzk kiya.sach khu to mj use k liye pyar bhut tha wo kisi or krti thi isliye mne bestfrnd k smn l love u kha tha.mene use ghar chhoda tbhi wo samne se boli me ap pyar nhi krti hun. Mne sunkr bhi unsuna kr diya.Mona bar bar bolti thi ap mj se pyar krte ho.

    Job chhute ne kb uska birthday tha me use mil nhi pya mene use msg kiya tm liye gift khrida ha .me kisi or k sath bhejtu. To wo nhi boli ap ghar pe aao.
    Dusre k sath bhejava diya.1 mahine tq use koi jwb nhi dia kafi msg kiye fir mne use call kiya to uski sis ne uthya wo boli jiske sath bheja tha use jwb mona dengi.
    Uski sist boli ap jo khas haina use wo jwb depta nhi uski sister q aisa boli
    Tb se lekr aj tq wo mj bt nhi karti hai.mona ki sagai hogyi hai.me use wish bhi kiya or monane fir se bleck list me dal diya mona bhi mera No.whatsapp me block krdeti hai.fir unblock kiya mne koi msg nhi kiya fri 1mahine pahle block krdiya. Mne use msg kiye ap tm sadi honeja rhi hai.to yaar ek br to mj bt kr meri glti kya hai.ek br to bol de.wo mj hrwqt pagal kheti thi kisi or k sath khulke mj bt kark dekha tb se aawara bolti.wo mj bolti thi mj tm pr bhorsa nhi hai. Me kisi ldki naam lu to kite swl krti thi. Wo kesi he. Moti ptli vgre pta nhi chalta tha wo mj itene swl krti thi.Mona hr bar meri mzk kiya krti thi sach  lgta tha.staff me se kisine kha q uske sath krti ho mona boli mj unko satne me mza ati hai.mj uski koi bt buri nhi lgti thi.
    Mj ek hi bt smj me nhi wo aisa q krti hai.
    Mona hrpl yaad ati hai.uske bina dil khi nhi lgta kuch kam thik se nhi hota.mj use yaad krk rona ata hai.mne dua bhi ki lekin use bhulna asn nhi.
    Mj wo ek bta deti wo q mj se bt nhi krna chaht hai.mera dil kheta hai. Syd wo mj bhi psnd pyar krti thi.

    Plz help me ap jwb dena wo mere bare me kya sochti hongi. Kya koi ldki smnse bole me ap pyar nhi krti hun kya mj pyra krti hongi.

    Usne mera dil bahut dukhya hai.
    Hi kc ho Ap mj Pta chla ki ap shadi hai,Shadimubrq,yaar Ab.toek br bt karlo,mjTmkoiBt BuriNhi lgti PlzyaarAbtounblock kr do; status islye nhi dekha Tm ptaChaleToApblockkrdogi.firblockkrDiaSasuralJne bd contentmeRhna muskil hota.isliyeMneAjmsgkiyaMydearFrnd.TmRojYadatiHoYePaglseekAkhriBrbiBtNhikrongiTmMeriDostHmesaRahongi.TakeCareUdrHpyMarriageLifeUGodBlesUJoDostDilkkaribHotaWohiJyda.
    KhudaneChahtoJindgimekbiMilge.mj aj rona ata hai me apne dil ko kaise smjau
    Plz reply me

    1. jo ho gaya woh ho gaya ab kuch nahi ho sakta hai aap bina wajha ro rahe hai isliye please apne aapko samjhaye aur ek sahi rasta chune.

  6. Hi..mre 1bf h hmara relationship 1year3mnths tk tha..hum bhut love krte ekdusre se woto mujse bat kiye bina nhi reh pate the..hum kbi mile nhi phle unne muje milne k liye bhut force kiya but kuch reason ki wjh se nhi mil paye fr mri family ko bf k bare me pta chalgya tha so mne bf se marriage k liye kaha but unne kaha ki intercast marriage nhi hoskti unki family nhi manegi..fr mne force kiya wo nhi mane or baat krna bnd krdya calls whtsapp sb jgah se block krdya muje..mne bhut try kiya bhulne ka but nhi bhul payi unke bina life nhi sochi..mne 9months bad av fr msg kiya frnd ki id se or milne ko kaha wo milne ko to ready h but une shyd mujhme intrest nhi rha ya kuch or reason hoga pta nhi..me unke liye evry monday fast bhi rkhti hu..muje lgta h me shi hu…but humne promise kiya tha hum ek bar zrur milege..so hum milne wale h kuch dino me..m confused kese bat krugi kese react kru..me jo krhi hu wo shi h ya nhi..bcoz hoskta h une mre looks ki wjh se marriage k liye mana kiya ho bcoz mri 1eye me problem h it was an accident jiska opration h nxt month fr thk hojyga sb ..so milna chye ya nhi ya opration se phle he milu..pls sugges me..its too long confession sorry. But life ka swal h..nd thank you.. 😊

    1. agaraapko lagta hai ki woh aapki loos ko leke itne concision hai toh aap operation ke bad hi miliye aur jab mile toh shadi ki ya relationship ki baat na kare isse baat bigarh sakti hai so aap normal baat kare i kown aapke man mein bahut sare sawal hoge but aap jab next time milegi tbhi baat kare about your relationship uske bad bhi agar na mane tojh aap move on kar lein kyu aap kisi ke sath zabardasti nahi kar sakte hai jisne jana hai woh chala jaiga phir chahe aap jitni marzi koshish kar liye.

  7. Hello.shivanshi..i wrote story..mai apni story publish kaise karu..uske liye mujhe koi tips de…ya mai apli website par kaise post karu..

    1. Bilkul bhi nahi, isse aap sirf aur sirf ek Beshkeemti zindagi ka time kharab karte ho aur kuch nahi.

      1. Hlo mam maira name Sonia hai mai ek ladke sai bhut pyar krti hu but ushka khi or bhi relation tha 5 saal sai but vo mujhse sadi krna chahta hai mujhse pyar krta hai ish vjh sai family mai bhut problem. Aa rhi hai SB change hai ki vo ushi ladki sai sadi kre na ki mujhse mai bhut presan hu ek trf maira pyar ek trf ushki family or vo ladki smjh nhi aa RHA kya. Kru plz kuch nhi smjh aa RHA

        1. Agar us ladke ka kisi aur ladki se bhi affair hai to vo tumhe sacha pyar karta hai iski gunjaish na ke barabar lagti hai mujhe, tumhe samajhdari se kaam lena chahiye. Main tumhari jagah hoti to muskil decision leti, because life is not easy, Mujhe nhi lagta tumhare us ladke ke saath koi future hai so apne aap ko majboot bana ke aage chalo is jalim duniya me.