Hey Guys… 🙂 Aaj Pakistan se humare ek dost ne bahut hi serious question pucha hai aur humse pucha hai ki ab `Main Kya Kru?` Vo bachpan se ek ladki se pyar karte hai par kisi unknown (anjaan) karan ki vajah se vo ladki ab humare friend se baat nhi kar rhi hai, na hi unki taraf dekhti hai. Short me kaha jaaye to totally ignore karti hai. Aayiye hum ek saath unka sawal padhte hai aur unki kuch help karne ki kosish karte hai.

Unka Sawal kuch yun hai..

Main sikeeladho Pakistan ka rahne wala hu, aur meri age 19 year hai. Main ek ladki ko us waqt se chahta hun jab wo 5th class me thi aur main 9th class me tha. Mere gaon me meri dukan bhi hai aur main use chahne laga. Maine socha ki propose karu magar darta tha ki kahi vo apne ghar walon ko na bata de. Uske gharwale bahut gande kisam ke log hai, barhaal Main use chahne laga. Ek din gali ke kutte use Kaat rahe the to Maine use un kuttoun se Bachaya, Maine socha ki purpose karne ka isse acha mauka nahi millega. So maine purpose kar diya…. par Usne inkaar kar diya 🙁 . Phir dheere dheere wo mujhse dosti karne lagi meri dukan uske ghar ke samne hi hai so wo mere dukaan pe aati thi koi bhi cheez kharidti thi, main use paise bhi nahi leta tha. Uske baad main 24 ghante us ke samne baitha rahta tha, waqt guzarta gaya guzarta gaya, aur Main samjhta tha ki wo bhi mujhse pyar karne lagi hai.

Achanak wo mujhse dur hone lagi, dheere dheere main use bahut chahne laga aur wo mujhse dur hoti chali gayi. Wo mujhse nafrat karne lagi wo baat bhi nahin karti thi. 5 saal se uski mintein ki, hath jode, paaon pada ki kiyu naraz ho par wo baat bhi nahi karti, uske ghar ka aana Jana bhi band ho gaya aur uske ghar walon ko mujh pe shak hone laga aur wo school chodne khud jaate the.

Ab school bhi nahin jaati, shaam ko ek gali se guzarti hai tabhi main usko dekhta hu aur shaam ko vo kabhi kabhi flat ke chat (roof) pe chadhti hai, aaj tak bhi mintain karta aa raha hun par wo response nahi deti.

Ladki Koi Jawab Nahi Deti Kya Karu Samajh Nhi aata

Use dekhta hun to dekhti bhi nahi. Kya karun, har tarika aazma chuka hun raat ko neend bhi nhi aati. Meri mohabbat ka kaise yakeen dilaun aur wo mujhse abhi tak naraz hai ab uske bina chain bhi nhi aata kiya karu?

Please Shivshi Ji bataio Main Kya Karun. Plz..

My Answer…

Hello Dear, dekho usne achanak se aapse bat karni band kar di aur uske baad itna time gujarne ke baad bhi ab tak aapse koi baat nhi karti to iske peeche jo reason mujhe najar aata hai vo hai, Family Pressure. Aisa nhi hai ki us ladki ne aapko koi dhokha diya ya kuch aur but 90% chances hai ki, uske ghar waalon ko aap dono ke guftgu ki khabar lag gyi hogi aur uske baad uske ghar waalon ne use kuch dhamki di hogi. Jaisa ki aapne bataya uske ghar waale ghatiya kisam ke log hai to jarur unhone use kha hoga ki – Agar vo aapse fir mili ya koi baat ki to uska aur aapka hashar bura hoga. Ladki samajhdar thi isliye usne aapse aisi koi bhi baat huyi hogi to nhi btayi kyunki ladkon ko agar aisi baat batayi jaati hai to vo apna kuch na kuch dimag chalate hai jis karan baad me unhe bahut problems jhelne padte hai, so us ladki ne chup reh kar aapko ignore karna hi behtar samjha hoga aur isi karan aapko koi response nhi deti. Maano ya na mano ye ya fir isi tarah ki koi na koi bat huyi hogi.

Aur agar maan lete hai ki aisi koi baat nhi huyi ho to, fir ek hi baat ho sakti hai… Vo kisi aur ko pasand ya pyar karti ho aur apne relationship ki vajah se aapko avoid karti ho. Halanki iske aasar bahut kam hai par fir bhi chances hai.

In dono me se hi koi reason hoga isliye vo aapko na koi response deti hai aur na hi dekhti hai, because dono ki case me use aapse dur rehna hoga. Aur jha tak rhi baat uske naraj hone ki to iske chances nhi hai because aapne uske saath kuch aisa nhi kiya jiske karan naraj hua jaaye aur narajgi itni der tak rakhi jaaye.

Lastly, ab bachti hai baat ki, Aap kya karo. To dost, reason chahe jo bhi ho aapne jab uski itni minnat kar li aur vo response nhi de rhi to main ab aapko ek hi salah dungi ki, us ladki ki vajah se apna aur waqt jaaya na karo. Jitna kar liya vo bahut hai ab aur mat karo. Ye zindgi bhagwan ne aapko di hai iska shi istemal karo aur ise khushi se jiyo, aur dusron ko khush karne ke liye jiyo. Zindgi ka maksad hota hai… khud ko aur apne parivar ko khush rakhna, aur fir agar kar sako to dusre ki help karna. Mere saath jo hua vo aapse khi jyada bura tha aur ek waqt main depression me ja chuki thi but see I’m fine aur iska reason sirf apna mindset theek karna hai.

Apni Zindgi ka ek maksad banao aur uske liye utna socho jitna abhi tak us ladki ke liye sochte aaye ho. Us sapne ke upar din raat kaam karo, kuch banne ki socho aur mehnat karo. Aisa waqt laane ke liye apni mehnat lagao ki ek din aapke Ammi – Abbu garv se keh sake aap unke bete ho, tab aapko ehsas hoga ki sachi khushi kya hoti hai aur fir main bhi proud ke saath keh sakungi ki maine aapki help ki thi aur aapko sahi rasta chunne me saath diya tha.

That’s it. Mere paas kahne ke liye aur kuch nhi hai, I hope you’ll understand and go to the right track. Best of Luck. Bhagwan aapko hamesha khush rakhe.

Friends agar aapke paas humare dost ke liye koi acha answer ya koi achi salah ho to jarur de. Aur ye bhi jarur bataye ki jo maine salah di vo aapko shi lagi ya nhi. Thanks. Love ♥

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Hello Ji :) Main hu Shivshi. Student hu but Love matters ko achi tarah samajhti hu. So ye site bnayi hai aapki help ke liye. Kuch bhi problem ho ya kuch puchna ho, bolo bina tension.. ♥ Reason for late reply.

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  1. Hello madam,meri wife sabke sath jitna kehte he onka hi jawab deti he.aur sabke sath jayada bat hi nhi krti.wo kahti he me baspan se hi aesi hu.to me onse kya bat Kru.to woh khus rhe.ose romantic bate jayada pasand nhi he.

  2. Hii shivshi me ek ladki ko like karta hu
    Or sayad bo bhi mujhe like karti thi
    Or jaisa ki school life me hota h
    Mere payar ki publicity ho gayi
    Then ek din coaching class me us ladki ne meko or mere frnds ko rakhi bandh
    Di

    Uske baad bhi bo mujhe class me dekhti rehti thi
    Jab meine apne frnds ki help se uske dil ki baat janne ki kosis ki tab bo clearly MNA kar deti h Ku jis ladke ko meine rakhi bandh di h use apna bf kaise bna sakti hu
    Then
    Bo mujhe samne se to ignore karti h
    But jaise hi mera dhyaan kabhi or hota h tab mujhe dekhti h phir me dekhta hu to ignore karti h
    Me kya karu halaki meine abhi tak directly use purpose nhi kiya h
    Kyuki me confused hu
    Ki bo mujhe pyar karti h ya nhi

  3. Hii shivshi meko ek bhaut bda confusion h apni love life ko lekr meko kya karna chahiye aap plz sugges karo

    Me or bo ladki jisko me pyar karta hu school time se sath h me use like karne LGA tha , n jaisa ki school life me hota h mere pyar ki publicity ho gayi n then

    Usne meko rakshabandhan ke baad
    Coaching class me mujhe or mere frnds
    Ko rakhi band di

    Uske baad meine apne frnds ki help lekr uske dil me mere liye kya feelings
    Jaan na chaha lekin usne clearly MNA kar diya ki meine use rakhi bandh di
    Bo ab mera boyfriend nhi ban sakta

    Lekin uske baad me kafi time se notice kar RHA hu ki bo mere samne hoti h tab to mujhe ignore karti h lekin jaise hi mera dhyaan kahi or hota h bo mujhe
    Dekhti rehti h

    Me kya karu kuch samjh nhi aata meine kafi logo ki help li lekin koi result nhi nikla halaki meine use directly purpose nhi kiya h

    Plz koi hint de do
    Me kya karu

  4. Hii Shivshi ji
    Maine ek ladki ko pasand krta hu …. Mujhe pta nhi o mere bare kya sochti hai lekin Maine use hamesa dekhta hu or o v mujhe dekhti hai lekin usne bhut ladke ko reject kiya hai kya main use propose kru… Ya nhi

    1. Are Dear, propose karne se pahle baat vaat to karo, thodi jaan pehchaan to karo, aise to propose karoge to vo mana hi karegi besak usne haan karni ho tab bhi. Thodi baat cheet karo, friends bano… hansi majak karo, funny messages share karo, kabhi kabhi uski tareef karo aur mauka milne par thoda bahut flirt karo… uske baad agar sab theek lagta hai to fir propose karne ki socho..

  5. Mam meri gf muze 2 month se call nhi kar Rahi hai q ki 2 month pehale ham dono me jada zagada huva or mene use bahut hurt kiya 4 sal relation tha ab uske Ghar ke or sab mo no swech off ate hai kya Karu mam uski yad Roj ati uske sath 4 sal ka relation 2 month se Ek call bhi nahi aya

  6. Miss., Mujhe ek ladki se pyar hua maine use purpose kiya but usne reject kr diya but baad me hum dono karib aa gaye wo b mujhe pyar krne lagi suddenly ek misumderstanding ki wajah se usne baat krna bnd kr diya to m kya kru..

    1. Usse kisi tarah baat karke misunderstanding dur karo, agar aapke baar baar kosish ke baad bhi vo apna attitude nahi badalti to samajh lo koi fayda nahi uske piche ja kar so use khush rahne do aur apna dimag Kaam Dhandha me lagao, kuch karo, kuch bano… Zindgi me in sab cheezon ke alawa bhi bhut kuch hai karne ke liye.

  7. mam, meri ek gf thi ham ek hi house me rent par rhte the . ham ek dusre se bohot love karte the. kuch din baad vo kahi of shift ho gye us ke baad usne kuch dino tak baat ki us k baad baat karna band kar diya mujhe samjh nhi aa RHA kya karo

  8. Hello shivani ji
    thanx a lot for help me ap bhot great work kr rhi he best of luck
    and mere pass us ldki ke number bi he then me number ka use kese kr skta hu vo mujhe dkhti to he but sirf 4 saalo se sirf 2 second ke lye eye contact krti he
    uske room se 100meter dur pe hi vo bank clases ki coachng pdati he to mujhe jyada chance ni milta usse baat krne ka

    1. Welcome dear.
      Simple si baat hai vo chahti hai aap aa kar usse baat karo, confidence ke saath ek Macho man ki tarah. Use aapme interest hai but agar aapne kuch kiya nhi aur bas yun hi dekhte rhe to vo samajh jayegi aapse kuch hone waala hai nhi, aur fir aap jo marji kar lo vo nhi milegi aapko. So Go talk to her… Dosti karo, yha vhan ki baate karo, apne no.s exchange karo, chatting karo, hansi majak karo aur haan uski tareef karna mat bhulna. Fir jab baat ho rhi ho to koi acha sa mauka dekh kar apne dil ki baat keh do.
      Agar aap baat karne ki himmat nhi kar paate to fir kuch nhi hone waala, ladki aise ladke ko kabhi pasand nhi karegi jisme apne dil ki baat kahne ki bhi himmat na ho. Agar use apni banana chahte ho to jaldi se jaldi usse baat karna shuru karo. Jyada sochne ki jarurat nhi hai bas `Hi…` Bolo and baat shuru ho jayegi… Itni himmat aur itni creativity agar kisi me nhi hai to use ladki patane ki baat sochni bhi nhi chahiye. Baaki aap khud samajhdar ho.. 😉

  9. Hi my self Ram
    mere coleg ke samne ek ldki hostel me rehti he me use 4 saalo se pyar krta hu jb bi vo bhar nikal kr bank coachng jati he to meri taraf dkhti bi ni mene use f.b pe requst send kri bt usne acpt ni kri and vo mujhe dkh kr ignore krti he Mere pas uske mobile number bi he but me uske lye ek anjan hu to mujhe kya krna chahye plz help me

        1. No. se jo bhi ho sakta hai aap sab jante ho ab bas ye dekho kya karna theek rahega aur fir vo karo, bas itni si baat hai. Main baat hai decision lene ki.

  10. Shivshiji me aek anjaani ladki ko bahut pasand karta hu…. Me pahle uske samne dekhta tha.. Wo bhi dekhti thi….. Ae 17 din tak chalta raha phir………… Maine us ladki ko 12 din pahle roka or bola xcusme aek kaam tha… Usne bola… Ha bolo… To Maine pu6a aapka name kya he? To usne bola aapki name se kya matlab? To maine bola. Aek kaam tha.. Usne bola ha bolo. Kam kya he? To Mene bola aapki school se vehicle ata he ghar se pick & drop ke liye? To usne bola … Ñài ata.. Phir Mene pu6a.. Ab to name batado.. To usne bola name se kya kam he.? To Mene bola its OK Ñài btana to koi baat Ñài. & thanks… Or me chalne hi laga utne me wo boli… Apki society ke boys mujhe mere name se kyu chidate he? To Mene bola mujhe to maloom bhi Ñài ki Tujhe kon chidate he!.. And phir bhi I’m sorry. But Mene aapko kabhi chidaya? To usne bola… Ñài… To Mene bola to Usme Meri kya galti he? To usne bola Ñài me aese hi bata rahi hu. To Mene bola. Wese ladko ki baat hi mat suno. Apne aap bandh ho jayenge.. To usne bola me to dhyan hi Ñài deti uske samne.. Or aap sab ladke mujhe roj subah raste pe roj kyu dekhte rahte ho? To Mene bola agar Tujhe problem ho rahi ho to. Kalse me raste hi badal dunga. To usne bola Ñài aesi koi baat Ñài he. Meto just baat kr rahi hu…. Phir Mene bola its OK. Phir me chalne laga.. To usne uska name samnese bataya… Phir me nikal gya…. Phir using din dopahar ko mili to samne dekhke Mene smile kiya to usne bhi smile diya…. Or uske agle din subah me vahase nikla to wo ladki nikli or me bhi nikla… Phir aek ladka aya mere pass or mujhe bola tu us ladki ko kyu pareshan kr raha he?? Kal name kyu pu6a …. USS baatko leke jagda ho gya…. Or phir kabhi USS ladki ne mere samne Ñài dekha!! Kya kru me? Ku6 samaj me nai ata

  11. Shiraz132001@yahoo.com
    shivashi ji me ek shadi shuda kadki ko like karta hu or wo bhi muje dekhti hai par abhi kuch dino se wo muje dekh nai rahi or baat karti he mujhse par pehle to wo muje boht dekhti thi or me kaise pata karu k wo muje like karti hai or naa maine usko propose kara par pata nai kyu uska husband mukhpe shak karta he plz help me plz aap plz muje mere email par bata do plz

    1. Agar wo married hai to aapko usse durr rehna chahiye kyunki aap ne ye to soch liya ki wo aapko like karti hai ya line maarti hai lekin aapko ye bhi to sochna chaiye ki wo married hai or agar uske husband ko pata chal gaya ki aap dono ek dusre se relation me ho to wo us ladki ko chord dega or aapki isbaat se 3 logo ki life barbad ho jayegi. Isliye aapko use bhul jana chahiye or koi single ladki dhundho apne liye or khush raho.

        1. Tab piche mat pado, bCoz jab ladki ne ye keh diya to samajh lena chahiye use aap me kisi tarah ka koi interest nhi hai, agar uske baad bhi aap uske piche jaate ho to apne aur uske liye problems khdi karoge aur kuch nhi.

  12. Madam Ji
    Yeh baat aapki sahi hai k wo apne gharwaaloun se darti hai
    2 apne gharwaloun ki izzat bhi kartihai unka kisi k saath bhi affairs nahin hai
    Kabhi apne flate pe charti hai mujhe idher udher dhundti hai hota hun tu mujhe dekh chali jati hai mujhe pata hai kisstime charhti hai use bhulane ki koshish main main USS time pe main wahan rukta nahin gun ab WO upper bhi nahin aati dekhta that tu roze aati ab dekhta nahin hun tu ab nahin aati
    Aurna hi Maine use galat kaha masla yeah hai k who nujhse pyar karti hai mager naraz kyun rahti hai
    Main ab kaafi unse dur hone laga hun par phir bhi usse bhula nahin pa raha hun

    1. Koi baat nhi Time sab gum bhula deta hai… Aap apne kaam par dhyaan lagao jyada se jyada… uske baare me socho mat, yaad bhi aaye to yaadon par dhyaan mat do.

  13. Hello dear. Aapka sawal or shivshi ji ka reply pada. Kafi had tak sehmat hu me shivshi ji k reply se.

    Pr m y kehna chahunga ki my Dear pehle to itni choti age m mohabbat nahi hoti. Aap ise boy n girls k bich ka ek lagav keh sakte. Jo aaksar kisi k sath v ho jata h.mohabbat ka ehsas apko bina prapose kiye hi ho jata h. Jaha tak aapka prob. H ki shivshi k anusar sayad uski age ho chuki h ki wo boys n grls m diff. Samjh chuki h.

    Or wo aapse daily baat karne k baad ek dam se baat na karne k sirf 2 hi region hovsakte h
    1. Jese aapne kaha ki uski famly. Ho sakta h ki use kuch maan maryada ka path padaya gaya ho. Lekin agar aisa hota to phir v wo aapko ignor nahi karti. Kuch to baat karti.
    2. Jo mujhe lagta h ki aap ne kuch na kuch galat bola ya kiya hoga. Koi v ladki bina region itni jald kisi ko ignor nahi kar sakti.
    Sayad aapka use dekhne ka najariya badal gaya.

    Rahi baat main kya kru to aap shivshi ji ki baat maan l.