Hello Dear friend aapki apni Love & Friendship Hindi Website par aapka Welcome hai _/\_ Aaj ek bahut hi serious question aaya hai jise padh kar mujhe bahut bura laga. Delhi se humare dost Gaurav ne apni problem humare saath share ki hai and vo puch rhe hai ki Ab vo kya kare. So I’m going to Help him by answering his question and friends please aap bhi Gaurav ji ka sawal padh kar unhe salah do ki unhe ab kya karna chahiye. Unko aapke help and suggestion ki bhut jrurat hai.

Girlfriend Theek Se Baat Nhi Karti

Hello mam, Main Gaurav Delhi se… Mam Main bahut problem me hu. Meri gf aaj-kal mujhse baat kam karti hai. Hum log last 8 years se relationship me hai aur pahle sab kuch bahut acha tha but ab vo bahut hi kam baat krti hai. Abhi hum logo me 1 january ko ladayi ho gyi thi, fir maine use unknown number se kaafi time call kiya but wo mujhe har baar pehchan leti aur phone cut kar deti thi.

Uske baad fir se humari baat june me huyi, usne mujhe message kiya ki – `Main baat karna chahti hu tumse` fir hamari dobara baat start ho gyi. But ab fir se usne baat krna kam kar diya hai. Hum log apne future ko leke kafi senstive the, kaafi plan kiya tha marriage ka bhi, but ab kabhi usse kuch kho to mana kar deti hai.

Man mai use bahut jyada pyar krta hu. Uske liye kuch bhi kar skta hu. Mam wo bhi mujhe bahut pyar karti thi but pta nhi use kya ho gya hai, aaj-kal shi se baat bhi nhi karti hai. Har baat ka ulta jawab deti hai aur Kabhi milne ko bolo to mana kar deti hai.

Mam Main kya kru jo wo dobara se saath aa jaye. Aaj hi meri fir Aarohi se ladayi ho gyi. Maine kha ab tum change ho gyi ho to khne lagi…

Yaar sach me main ab bahut change ho gyi hu, aapko ab pta chala?? koi nhi chalo pta to chal gya

Maine usse bola ki kyu meri life ke 8 saal barbad kiye? kyu meri jindagi se kheli to kahne lagi..

Mere liye logo ki jindagio se khelna ek khel hai. Mere Mummy Papa ne yahi sikhaya hai mujhe

Main use bahut pyar karta hu, apni jaan se bhi jyada. Mam mai uske bina nhi rah skta, ab aap hi batao ki Main kya kru? Har time usi ke baare me sochta rehta hu. Jab bhi usse ladayi ho jaati hai uski wajah se bahut chidchida sa lagta hai.

Maine gusse me aa kar apni government job bhi chod di. Mai bahut pareshan hu, Kya kru bataye plz plz help me

My Answer…

Dear Gaurav, Sabse pahle aapko btana chahungi ki usse ladayi hone ke karan gusse me aa kar apni Govt. job chod ke aapne bahut badi galti ki. Aapki is decision se pata chalta hai, Aap mentally bhut weak ho chuke ho. And that’s not the way around my friend.

Dekho dear, Aaj nhi to kal vo ladki aapko chod degi and Break Up kar legi. Jis tarah se uska nature aapke liye change hua hai usse ye baat saaf saaf pata chalti hai. Mujhe ye baat kehna to nhi chahiye but aapki situation ko dekh kar kehna pad rhi hai ki… Vo ladki sirf aur sirf aapko use kar rhi hai. That’s the bitter truth dear.

Aapko ye baat samajh leni chahiye thi but Aap sab jante huye bhi aankh band karke aage chalte rhe, ye soch kar ki koi baat nhi aage sab theek ho jayega. Life is tough my friend, aise mauke par Dil se nhi Dimag se kaam loge to hi is cruel world me survive kar paoge.

Us ladki ka interest aapke upar se utar chuka and and now it will be almost impossible to get her back. Asliyat ye hai ki, pahle kya tha pata nhi but now…. That Girl doesn’t Love You.

Gf Aaj kal theek se baat nhi karti

Fir bhi vo aapke saath hai iska ek hi karan hai, aur vo ye ki… Vo janti hai ki Aap usse bahut pyar karte hai aur uske liye kuch bhi kar sakte ho. Vo bas is baat ka fayda utha rhi hai, Aur kuch nhi. Koi bhi ladki jab ye baat,” Yaar sach me main ab bahut change ho gyi hu, aapko ab pta chala?? koi nhi chalo pta to chal gya” kahe to samajh lena chahiye ki vo ab aapke saath hai to sirf apne fayde ke liye. Kisi Pyar Mohabbat ke karan nhi.

Gaurav Main aapko yhi suggest krungi ki….. Don’t get mad for her. Pyar ko apni majburi aur us ladki ki takat mat banao. Vo ye janti hai ki vo kuch bhi kare aap uske liye crazy rhoge isliye vo aapse attitude me baat kregi, vo ye dikhayegi ki aap uske liye koi mayne nhi rakhte. So now it’s up to you ki uski is berukhi ka jawab usi ki tarah attitude se dete ho ya rote rhte ho.

According to me, Us ladki ko bhaav dena band karo, use ye mat dikhao ki aap uske liye mari ja rhe ho. Vo aapka fayda utha rhi hai, samjho is baat ko. So aap use dikhao ki, U respect yourself more than her. Dear mere khyaal me Self Respect sabse badi cheez hai kisi bhi insaan ke liye. Jab tak aap apni respect nhi kroge aur ek aisi ladki ke liye rote rhoge jiske liye aap koi mayne nhi rakhte tab tak aap suffer karoge. So Just don’t give her so much importance. Even I would suggest you ki, Vo Jaisa behave kar rhi hai tum bhi vaisa behave karo. Ek Baat samajh lo uski baaton se saaf clear hai ki vo saath nhi rehna chahti aur agar aapne jabardasti karke ya kisi aur tarah use paa bhi liya tab bhi aap khush nhi reh paoge. So aap ulta use Attitude dikhana shuru karo, aap call mat karo, vo kare to bolo, Baad me baat karta hu abhi busy hu. Fir call mat karna. Vo fir jab puche ki tumne call nhi kiya to bolo, Bhul gya tha. Use uski jagah dikhao.

Accept the Reality and Live the Life Strong. Aap unke liye jiyo jinke liye aap sab kuch ho.. That’s your parents, your family. Ek successful insan bano and apna target set karo life ka jise paa kar dekhte huye aapke papa ke aankho me aanshu aa jaaye. Jab aap aisa karoge na tab jo khushi hogi vo hoga sacha pyar. Fir dekhna friend jo aapko aapki kadar karne waale log milenge. Aur main gurantee deti hu tab vo ladki royegi.

I hope aapko meri baat samajh aa gyi ho. Please don’t destroy ur life for a girl who dosn’t love you. Best of Luck for your life.. ..☆★…

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Hello Ji :) Main hu Shivshi. Student hu but Love matters ko achi tarah samajhti hu. So ye site bnayi hai aapki help ke liye. Kuch bhi problem ho ya kuch puchna ho, bolo bina tension.. ♥ Reason for late reply.

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  1. thank you very very much mam mera bi story gourav ki tarah hai.. apne Bahot hi achhe suggestions diye.. main bi Pagal ho raha tha but abhi nehi hunga… again thanks mam…

  2. Ak ladki..h..meri hi classmate thi… 11th me hmare bich me mst frndship thi vo bate bhi karti thi. Smile bhi deti thi. Par mene usko mna kar diya ye sab karna band kar yun. Q ki study me prblm na aaye is liye. . Par us din se me usko manane ki koshish kar rha hu vo man hi ni ri h.. ak bar to propose bhi ki kiya par usne mna kiya uski frnds ne bhi usko samjaya par vo h ki man hi ni rhi h..I Rrally like her..to aap hi batao ab me kya karu.?

  3. Hi shivshi,
    mera name Dilip h. or me 5salo se love relationship me hu.
    she’s Shreya.
    problems ye h ki wo mujhse close nhi hoti.
    wo kehti h me sirf frnd hi rhna chahti hu.
    but me usse boht pyar krta hu even i wanna marry her.
    wo b mujhse love krti h abi last propose day ko usne mujhe proposed kiya tha but baki days wo mujhse mili tak nhi.
    yar hmari love story me problems boht h.
    we r neighbors.
    I’m 22 n she’s older than me around 4 years.
    but mujhe iss baat s koi prblm nhi h.
    but wo nhi manti…!
    kya kru yar i really love her 5 salo se bas wo hi wo h. koi dusri ladki acchi hi nhi lagti. she is my first love.
    me delhi me akela hi rehta hu ti wo meri boht care b krti h more than her family.
    usne accept to kar liya k meri gf h par sirf naam ki..! she loves me but jatana ni chahti or close b nhi aati.
    plz tell me what should i do now..?

    1. Usse thodi duri banao, baat, msg call sab kuch bhut kam kar do… use apni kami ka ahsas hone do. Agar to vo pyar karti hai sach me to vo tadap jayegi aur fir khud kehgi ki – Bhut pyar karti hu, mujhse dur mat hona. Aur agar vo is dauran jyada tension nhi leti aur befikar rehti to aapka bharam bhi dur ho jayega.

    1. Apna dimag chalao thoda, agar vo baat nhi karna chhati to faltu me apna time barbad karne ki koi jarurat nhi hai uske piche. Time itna keemti hai, kuch to ijjat karo iski.

  4. meri gf married hai.uska ek 3 saal ka baccha v hai.mai USSR bahut pyar krta hu.WO v mjse pyar krti hai.lekin muje kuch dino se ESA lag RHA hai k WO muje ignore KR rhi hai.mai ESA kya kru k hmesa k lye mai uske dil me BA’s jau jisse WO muje kavi na bhule

    1. Dear mere hisab se aapko apni life ki taraf dhyaan dena chahiye or use bhul jana chahiye, nahi to aapki isi soch ki wajah se aap ko taklf bhi ho sakti hai baad me ya fir thode timne me. Isliye agar wo aap se durr ho rahi hai to aap bhi ho jao isse acha mauka nahi milega aapko.

    1. Ek baar usse request karo ki baat sun le pls fir agar vo chahegi ki Aap usse baat na karo to choro use, apni ijjat bhi hoti hai har insan ki, jarurat se jyada bhaav dene ki jarurat nhi.

  5. hello mam…
    mai ek ladki se pichle 2 salo se bat kr ra hu or mene use propose b krdiya tha boht pehle hi.. wo boht khush hui jab mene use propose kra.. pr usne kaha k hum bs ache frnds rahenge
    maine kaha thik h..
    or mai use boht hsata hu hr time wo mujhe har bat btati h, jo bhi mai puchta hu bta deti hai.. or jb ruthti h to mai mna leta hu..or wo bolti h k tum mujhe mna hi lete ho…
    uske sath boht flirt bhi krta hu or wo hasti rehti hai…
    par mam, wo mere samne ni aati wo bolti hai k usse sharm aati hai mere samne aane se
    bolti hai k agr mene usse ye sb na btaya hota k mai use pyr krta hu to tb wo samne aati …milti..
    par bat krti h hsti h mzak krti h..wo ye bhi bolti hai k tum bde ache ho.
    ye sab kya hai mai boht preshan hu

      1. Hiii maim ……mujhe yha kuc samjh. Ni aa rha kaise aapko apni problen btau. Iske baad mujhe khud mera ans. Ni milega
        Kha s kya hoga btaiye plz shyad fir m ye b na khol pau maine aapko e-mail b kiya but koi response ni aaya so m so confused ???

  6. agar hai pyar to kariye.
    Izhaar…
    Uska ho Inkaar To thoda kariye Intezar..
    naa lagaiye takdeer par ilnamm..
    Tabhi milega insaf

  7. mam mai ek ladki ko chahta hu mgr mujhe usse btane mai ajeeb lagta hai ki main usse chahta hu wo mujhe dekhkr smile bhi deti hai baat bhi krti hai mai kya kru zara btaiye

    1. Usse baat karo or sath hi jitna jaldi ho sake use apni feeling k bare me btao kyunki baad me kahi aisa na ho ki koi or jo ki himmat karke use bol dega ki i like u to wo uske sath chali jayegi or aap akele reh jaoge isliye aise kaam me derri nahi kiya karte.

  8. yaar apne attitude me raho. zyda kisi ko ye mat dikhao hm tumhare liye mare jaa rahe h.
    propose kro tab bhi..vrna bhav to alag khayegj. izzat b nhi kregi

  9. mera name monu sharma hai…
    me 9 th se ak ladki ko like karta hu uska name chaya hai….aaj us ladki se pyar karte karte 7 yars ho chuke hai but problam ye hai ki…sab jan ne ke baad bhi wo 3 amezing wrd nhi bolti hamari baate 4-4 ghante hoti hai….chaiting puri nyt karte hai …..aap meri help kro kya wo mujjse sachha love karti hai…..us ladki ke mom dade nhi hai..wo mujhe bhahut sweet lagti hai…me apni lyf us ladki ke liye hi jina chahta hu……aap batao shiwani ji me kya karu

  10. i am 19 yrs old boy.
    main rural area ka rahnewala hun aur city me kuch hi dino se rah raha hun.
    main khud ko akela feel karta hun, main apni GF banana chahta hun par mujhe samajh nhi ata main kya karun.

    1. agar aap akele hai toh iska matlab ye nahi hai ki aap gf banaye aap kuch ache dost bhi bana sakte hai ya agar apke pass free time hai to aap koi acha course kar sakte hai jo apke ane wali life me kaam aiga

  11. hiiiiii maim. mai ek ladki ko fb pe chat krta hu lekin dekha nhi hu. mai confome hu ki wo larki hai. chat bhi bahut krti hai. bt pic magne per nhi deti. bolti hai whatsaap use krungi to send kr dungi. whatsaap abhi use nhi krti hai. number magne per bhi nhi deti hai. bolti hai mujhe phone pe batt krna achha nhi lagta. mai kisi ko aapna number nhi deti. waise frd ki tarh batt krti hai. mai use like krta hu. maim plz help plz plz…. kaise bolu usko like krta hu bina dekhe.

    1. Bina dekhe aisa kuch bolne ki jarurat nhi hai, ho sakta hai aapka koi friend hi aapke saath majak kar rha ho, aap uske saath baat karna bilkul band kar do.. fir agar usne pucha ki kya hua, to direct bol dena…. Mujhe doubt hai ki ye fake ID hai, aap pahle ye prove karo ki aap girl ho fir baat karenge, varna Bye Bye. Agar vo ladki hogi to jarur positive response aayega 🙂

  12. Hello frzz!!
    I am Priyank . I have one problem please give me solution..
    Mera nature sabki help karna hai ..
    Chahe samne vala aadmi koi bhi ho,,,
    Me apne sabhi frzz ki koi bhi time par koi bhi help Marta hun … Us time pe vo Sab mujhe achchi tarah se respect se bulate he but jab use meri jarurat nahi hoti tab ak bhi frzz mujhe ek msg bhi nahi karta please give me solution of this me kya karu ??

    1. Priyank, Chanakya ne kha hai – Kabhi bhi bhut seedhe mat bano kyunki seedhe ped sabse pahle kaate jaate hai aur seedhe insan ka sabse jyada istemal kiya jaati hai. Learn to Say No. Sirf unki madat karo jo time aane par tumhari karte ho har kisi ke liye chatukari karne ki koi jarurat nhi hai, aise har koi tumhara use karega aur koi ijjat nhi dega.

  13. dekh bhai grv jsa tumne batya ki 8 yrs sy relationship may ho our ab uska interest kam hogya h Phli bat to ye Kya to usy dusra koi mil gya h is liy tume chor na k chkr may h ya fir wo tumri kisi bat say hurt h….Jo wo share nhi Krna chati hogi BT bhai tum kese bi Kar k usey milo…. then usy bto ki tum uske bina bht adhurea ho Usko dil say feel krwoo….Bcz 1st love koi bii bhul nhi Pata is liy u can do itt bro…..and abhi dil ka mamla h is liy isy dimak say kaam lo……usy jese tese Kar k emotional Kar do….then….usy Sb Kuch bol dalo……baki

  14. Hi love matter shall solutions center mai hu yogesh rajesh surat se ..filhal working job karta hu 15 day se 2 girls hum same time same jagah hota mai ek railway line se gujarta hu woh dono jaise hi crossing hota hu ki har din trah kuch na woh dono ladki aapash hi mujhe tana maregi mai Aage jake piche bhi dekhta hu to dono me se ek jarur dekhegi plz help me is chiz ko samjha jaye

      1. Mam ap apni fb id dijiye na please mujhe apka work bht acha lga me b apni ek problem discuss krna chahta hu apse please fb id btaiye mam apki.

  15. shivsh – > I Agree with your suggestion, but as pe my think us ladki ko gautav ke bare me kuch misunderstanding huyi hai jo wo clear nhi karna chahti kyonki koi bhi ladki gusse me hi is type se baat kar sakti hai ki me main ab bahut change ho gyi hu, aapko ab pta chala?? koi nhi chalo pta to chal gya” an all that
    kyonki aap hi socho koi bhi ladki apne matlab ke leay 8 years relationship nhi rakh sakti baat agar 1 ya 2 ya 3 years ki ho to mana ja sakta hai ki ladki uce use kar rahi hai ya fir gaurav me koi intrest nhi hai and all that so gaurav as pe my suggestion aapko use kuch dino ke leay ignore karna chahiye wo aapse contact karne ki koshish karegi aap use ignore karo itna ki use apni aukad pata chal jaye aur aap khud me busy rehne ki koshish karo janta hu muskil hai but namumkin nhi aap apni man pasand ki song sunu us jagah mat jao jaha aap uske sath jyada jate the jyadatar apne friends ke sath raho kuch dino baad wo aapse wo misunderstanding zarur clear karna chahegi jo uske dimag me chal raha hoga,
    Aap koshish karke dekho maybe your relationship shell be fine nhi to aapke pass last option hai ki aap use hamesha ke leay ignore kar shadi kar lo us se aapka akelapan dur ho jayega aur aap apni aage ki zindagi ji paogee.!!